It has been eight months since I posted in this 'Conundrum'. I was considering starting a new blog - I love to start new things, finishing old things is a challenge for me. So, instead of starting brand new, I'm going to "Go Green" and recycle this blog.
I'm going to use the same name but change the subject to what we are learning in our marriage. Just as we remodeled this old house, we've had to remodel our marriage from the inside out. I'm going to share what some of those changes were, what we've learned and some of what we are currently walking through.
I'm going to try to use the procedures we used on the house and draw parallels to what we had to do in our marriage to make it better. Please feel free to leave comments, share your own experiences, leave an encouraging word, or a word of advice.
The house then
Us then
It took us 11 months to do this house. (and we actually have a little bit left to do - the final touches, plus the yard!)
It has been 11 years since we were separated, reunited and began working in earnest to repair, restore and make the marriage work.
When we look back at when we first started this house, it is hard to believe it is the same structure. We tore out cupboards, closets, carpet, more plaster than we could measure, walls, pipes, plumbing....and what we found in the walls and ceilings was filthy, old and faulty.
When we look back at our marriage 11 years ago, we cannot believe it is the same relationship. In order to repair and restore, we had to tear out old habits, thought patterns, traditions we'd been taught, things we'd built our very foundation upon. When we scrutinized, studied and analyzed what was behind the walls, we couldn't believe how filthy, old and faulty the things inside of us were.
Everything but the bare bones had to go.
The covenant we had entered into 23 years prior to that, was what stayed. The agreement to stay together for life was the starting point and adding God to the core of it was now the foundation.
So, here's to the second part of this blog - hope you learn how to make your marriage better as you read what we walked through to restore ours!
